The Journey

While I had been successfully working hard on my career my wife hadn’t grow with me.
Our marriage was childless.
I overcompensated her  with all the luxury you could imagine and took her everywhere she wanted to go to.
However, she was extremely jealous and became increasingly aggressive towards me.

A year after the inevitable separation, I met a woman  who gave me the love that I had missed so much.
My ex-wife appeared to be revengeful.
Mutual friends and acquaintances were embarrassed by her lies about me.
I felt responsible for her acting out so I sought help.

During a consultation I was asked the following question:
“Did she at your wedding promise to you to make your life hell?”
I got the advice to write my ex-wife a letter that I didn’t have to send.

The letter had three topics:

-That has happened.
-This is what it has done to me.
-This is how I want to go on in my own life.
The writing of that letter took me three emotional weeks. I decided not to send the letter.

Afterwards much to my surprise I didn’t hear anything from her.
Years later I heard that she was married and had children.
I decided to visit my physician because my second marriage remained childless as well.
I was the cause which my second wife couldn’t handle.
She wanted a divorce.

Again I wrote a letter that I didn’t sent.
Finally I wanted to have a lot of time for myself and took a sabbatical year to travel to other continents.
If I wanted a consultation it was possible by Skype.
To me it was like being far away but at the same time close to someone.
Through all of this I have become who I really am.
I’ve been very lucky in meeting a woman that I married.
We have adopted two children.

He asked me to come to Schiphol when he traveled back home which I didn’t.
It was his journey to come home to his Self.